Ever since I had surgery, people have been offering to help. After I started feeling better, my general response was, “Once I start the chemo, I’ll let you know what I need.” Well… now is that time.
One practical thing that someone who is not physically near me: we need coupons. We currently buy two papers every Sunday, but because we live in a smaller town, we don’t get many coupons in our inserts. We tried having papers delivered from two larger cities, but one had no inserts and the other was delivered maybe once a month, in spite of us paying for every Sunday. It will be more difficult now to remember to buy the Sunday papers, and we need less things on our plate! So if you get the Sunday paper, I can really use the inserts. If you’re interested, let me know and I’ll send you an e-mail with where to send them.
For those who are here and willing, I really need to know who would be available to drive me to and/or from chemo and/or the gym. As I’ve been reading about the side effects of my drugs, it appears I may not be able to drive. I’ll do another update soon about the types of chemo I will be receiving, but here’s the basics, time-wise. On Day One, I will be receiving a 90-minute infusion. On Day Eight, it will be almost four hours. Then I’m “off” until Day 22, which is technically Day One of a new cycle.
What does this mean? Well, out of 21 days, I will need someone on two of those days. Or two someones on Day One and two someones on Day Eight. Or one someone for each day. However it works out. My husband would have to take off to take me there and to pick me up, and we’re trying to save his leave time for the days when our son is sick or I am really sick. My mom can come over on some of those days, but bear in mind she does not live here, and she will already be coming over on the days that I just really can’t care for myself. If at all possible, I would like to work it out so that someone picks me up from my house and takes me in to the hospital and someone else picks me up at the hospital two or four hours later to take me home. If someone can do both in one day, great. If someone can only drop off but not pick up, great. I really just need a list of people who think they might be able to do this. If I have a list, I can quickly and easily call and schedule people ahead of time.
If you commit to this, it is not a two-hour or four-hour commitment. I have books, music, and cross-stitching to keep me occupied while receiving my treatments, so you do not have to sit with me. I’m just trying to make things a little easier on my caregivers – my husband and my mom – by not making them have to rearrange their schedules constantly for a simple fifteen minutes here or there.
**One note: I do not know yet whether Day One and Day Eight will be on a Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, or Friday. It will never be on a Wednesday, as Dr. F. is not in the clinic on that day. I am waiting on the tonsillectomy and recovery before starting my chemo, but we are sincerely praying that I will be able to begin my treatment the week of July 16.
Also, there may be things that I think of in the future where we need help. If you are not able to either of things, but are willing to help in the future, please leave a comment or shoot me an e-mail or a text. Be sure to tell me if you would available last-minute or need advance planning. I will e-mail you to figure out the best way to be in touch with you and keep a list together as needed. Thank you!